How to provide support for mental health issues?

Many people who suffer from mental health problems are more likely to speak to a friend or family member than an expert, because of this the support someone can provide is very important. Even though these situations can be uncomfortable, awkward, or confusing, no formal training is necessary for you to be able to be there for someone and provide support.

Specific symptoms can be characteristic of specific mental disorders, but there are many disorders. Not all symptoms always appear, and the symptoms can manifest differently in different patients. It is good to inform yourself about the different symptoms and disorders in mental health, but you shouldn’t count on yourself to be able to be able to react to and solve specific severe problems without the help of experts.

This isn’t expected of us as those close to someone. It is often easy to recognize changes in mood or behavior with those close to us, even without them approaching us with their issues.

Some tips for providing support when we are suspicious or see that someone is having mental health issues include:

• Showing concern can be an excellent way to approach the problem. Often, people who suffer from mental health issues find it very difficult to be vulnerable and honest about their experiences, even with those closest to them. Showing concern is supposed to communicate that you are there for that person, that you care, that you want to help, and that they can count on you.
• Provide support: if the person approaches you, you need to communicate that you are willing to provide support and help in any way you can. Approaching others with such problems can be very frightening, so it is essential for the person to feel validated.
• Patience: It’s essential for the person to feel free to talk about the problems as much or as little as they want; they don’t have to say everything right away. Your ideas about solving the problems might seem correct, but leaving space for the person to make decisions independently is essential because they probably know better. Forming a diagnosis or treatment plan isn’t something you should do; helping them find professional help if needed is the right decision.

• Offering practical help: Small, practical, everyday things can greatly help depending on the situation. It can also help the person know that someone is willing to help and be present. This can mean finding helpful information, helping organize questions for a doctor or a routine, going to appointments with them for support, helping with household chores, and similar things.
• Offering to listen: Listening and participating in conversation can be key. You shouldn’t force anything and should be patient. You should set aside time without distractions. Asking open-ended questions can help the person open up and share their thoughts. Summarizing what was said can let them know you are present and understand and help you understand better.
•  Keeping things regular: Changing things in a relationship with a person can lead to feelings of isolation and regret about opening up. Maintaining ordinary things in the relationship, being discreet concerning the issue, and offering support in private are essential ways for the person to know that they have your support.
• Taking care of your own mental health: Depending on the situation, it can be stressful and difficult to provide support and help someone you are close to who is suffering. It is important not to feel guilty because of these feelings. It’s essential to check up on your own needs and mental health.

Written by: Bachelor of Psychology, Aleksa Holcer.

This text is intended for informational purposes only. If you experience any symptoms, it is recommended that you seek advice from your doctor or a qualified healthcare professional.

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